Around one in five UK adults say they don’t feel comfortable talking about sex with anyone, and research suggests women in straight relationships often find it easier to talk about sex with friends than with their partners. Kimberley is joined by psychotherapist Sarah Harness to explore why sexual communication is so difficult, the part shame plays in keeping us silent, how the orgasm gap and desire discrepancy affect relationships, and practical ways to start talking about sex with honesty, curiosity and care. This episode contains explicit discussion of sexual content.

Kimberley Wilson, chartered psychologist, is on a mission to sift through all the information and misinformation that’s out there around our mental health. She invites expert guests - trained psychologists, psychiatrists and psychotherapists - to help her share insight and some valuable tips.

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